Sick of Being Single? Make Your Relationship Goals Happen
Setting goals does not just apply to your career, your finances, or your fitness. Goals apply to every aspect of your life and that includes your relationship. If you are single and you’re sick of being that way, then you need to come up with a plan to change that and you need to approach it with the very same determination as you would any other type of goal.
What’s Holding You Back?
The first thing to do when trying to change the way you’re approaching your love life is to look at what is holding you back.
For many people, it’s actually a lack of trying. Either they’ve been hurt before, they’ve lost confidence, or they just don’t realize they have to. But at the end of the day, if you’re tired of being single, then you need to work at this just as you would anything else. That might mean trying online dating, it might mean going to bars more, or it might mean just asking people out in the street.
While some people aren’t trying at all though, many other people are simply trying the wrong strategy or focus on the wrong thing. These are the people who know they don’t want to be single any more but who aren’t quite sure how to change that.
For example, if you want to have a more active sex life then you shouldn’t be dating your friends as that is more likely to lead to a long-term relationship. If you want a long-term relationship, then looking at bars or on Tinder is likewise misguided.
Actually, pining after friends is generally a bad idea and it’s something that can really waste your time unless you have a drastic plan to change the way they see you. And then there are people who simply fail to correctly assess their own desirability to certain groups.
Then there’s the chance that you’re doing everything right but just not getting results, in which case you need to focus on your approach. That might mean the way you present yourself, or the way you come across in conversation. Many of us will unintentionally come across as sleazy, as needy, as clingy, or as desperate – none of these things are going to help your chances!
How to Make the Change
Once you have identified the problem, it is time to start making the change. The first thing to do is to make the commitment to be proactive. That means regularly approaching people or signing up for online dating and putting in the effort (just creating a profile is not enough) or to improve your approach and your swagger.
Then you need to come up with a plan and think about how to make the best use of your resources. For instance, Facebook can be a surprisingly effective way to meet people and also to reconnect with old people. Perhaps there is an old flame you could start messaging? Or maybe you could add someone that you met at a party?
If you are shy about approaching the opposite sex, then maybe you should think of a way to work up to it and to build your confidence.
Sometimes it means not taking the most obvious route, but the most important thing is that you identify the weak points in your game and your strategy and then work to fix those.
Would You Like To Discover A Shortcut To Setting Up Good Goals And Making Things Happen Even Faster?
We all have goals we want to accomplish and the things we want to make happen. Maybe it’s your fitness you want to improve, maybe you’re looking to enhance your career, or perhaps you have always envisioned a life of travel for yourself that you want to make a reality.
But while we all have goals, many of us lack the necessary skills and expertise to make those goals happen. This renders us somewhat powerless when it comes to choosing the trajectory of our lives.
We’re out of shape because we don’t know how to stick to a training program, we’re in jobs we aren’t excited about because we don’t know how to get out of our career ruts and we never seem to be able to get the money together to go traveling.
The worst part? When you tell someone how you’re going to quit smoking, write a book or get into shape they just kind of… roll their eyes. And say ‘sure’. And even we don’t quite believe it. It is time to change all that.
In this guide, you’re going to take a different strategy. Here, we are going to talk about how you stick to those goals. We’re going to discuss how you keep going for the things you want, even when you’ve had an exhausting day in the office, even when you’ve got a serious migraine, even when things just don’t seem to be going your way…